Tuesday, January 31, 2012

individuality


when i was a freshman in high school, i got into a huge, huge fight with a close friend. she accused me of copying her clothing, her hair, her style. she started screaming at me in front of everyone. it was probably one of the most embarrassing moments in my life.

to be clear, i wasn't copying her clothing, or anything about her. my mom pretty much raised me in a t.j.maxx and that is where all of my clothing came from. my mom also bought and picked out all of my clothes at that time, and sometimes went as far as deciding what i would wear the next day. i didn't have much say in the matter. she was the one with the power--the money. not that i was going to admit that to the hordes of high schoolers staring at us. and yes, i was seriously an awkward teenager--really not popular. this screaming match, did not help.



the most frustrating thing, aside from the loss of friendship, was that i didn't understand why she cared so much. short of having your clothing all custom-made, i think its fairly impossible to expect someone not to own the same stuff as you. OMG, you have a Calvin Klein logo shirt! i have one too! you copying bitch.

you think i'm joking, but i'm not. this is really what started the fight. (self-analyzation here makes me wonder if this is why i hate logo brand t-shirts).

i understand the need to be an individual. everyone wants to stand out and be unique in his or her own way. clothing is a great tool to communicate that with, but just because someone owns the same dress or skirt as you, doesn't make you or your style any less special.

everyone wears things differently and i think a great example of this is the latest zara craze.

you know what i'm talking about. don't pretend like you don't.



yep. those.

the zara navajo print pants have been popping up on blogs left and right. they're actually on sale right now, if you're interested, for a ridiculously cheap price (although they're currently sold out online).

last week fashion infusion did a mini collage of seven different bloggers, herself included, all wearing these pants. and trust me when i say there are more than just 7 bloggers out there wearing them. although this isn't the first time this has happened, and it definitely won't be the last, i thought it would be a good time to talk about a fairly common issue around personal style and fashion, and how difficult it is to really stand out sometimes. i bet someone came across these pants, thought, "oh gawd these are fantastic! they're so unique!" and then later discovered about half the world seemed to own them.

what do you do when that happens? do you stop wearing them? burn them? or wear them proudly because, in the end, you still love them?

i really hope its the latter.



i think the most important thing to remember is that you bought the item because you love it. not because someone told you, you love it or that you should wear it (unless you're one of my guy friends, in which when they go shopping with me i have final say :X). if you really love a pair of pants, then wear them. these bloggers did. and they don't look like clones of each other do they? each outfit has its own unique look because of the bloggers' different body type and style. in the end your style is really defined by your personality, not necessarily by your clothes (gosh that seems like blasphemy to say on a fashion blog).

hype this look on lookbook.nu

p.s. this is may or may not be another dressember leftover outfit :X <3



photos taken by me
volcom lottie dot dress, forever 21 belt, cotton on socks, dockers jensa boat shoes



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6 comments:

  1. I know of a person that is just like that, but you know what? I just ignore her. Those kinds of people are so self absorbed. The store she shops at didn't make clothes exclusively for her, so she just needs to shut it. I loved this post and I love your fashion sense.

    -Lisa
    Thelovelymemoir.blogspot.com

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    1. <3 thanks Lisa!!! haha i wish i'd had that kinda of self confidence when i was younger!

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  2. Very cute outfit... and Lisa H. is completly right... - have to agree with her opinion...

    Tanja - PureGlam.tv or via Facebook-Page

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  3. Hooray! Some people seem to think that because they bought something, they practically invented it. If you shop on the high street, then a million people will also own it. Deal with it.
    Blogs can be misleading though as to what 'everyone' is wearing. Bloggers seem to have their own trends, like these trousers, that exist away from regular trends. I've seen so many bloggers wearing the Zara trousers, or pleated leather skirts, or Peter Pan collars, but I practically never see those things worn by lots of people I see in my 'real-life.' There aren't a thousand people at the supermarket rocking those trousers. Not in my town anyway. So while bloggers might seem to be cloning outfits, they still stand out from the crowd, offline anyway.

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  4. So true....it is almost impossible to not be copied by someone somewhere, after all we do not sew our own clothes and even then it is imposiible unless and until you live under a rock!!How you wear it matters to me more than what you wear, style is more important than fashion!
    Just found you and loved your blog! Will be following for sure.
    Love
    Juneli from Fashionably Yours
    http://fashionablyyours-juneli.blogspot.com/

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  5. People like that are sooo obnoxious. This girl I knew wore HOLLISTER only every single day. Thank goodness she decided she was too, "cool" for me. I'm better off without her! Great job and your blog is too cute!
    fahionhauties.blogspot.com :)

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